Perfectionism is a trap that many of us fall into, believing that if we are perfect, no one can criticize us. However, this belief is far from the truth. We still hear things we don’t want to hear, and we feel like we need to try harder and do better. This cycle of perfectionism can lead us into a prison of our own making, where we hide behind a facade of perfection to protect ourselves from judgment.
We become afraid to be seen and heard for who we truly are, and we hide our projects away because they’re not “perfect” yet. We live a life that is dictated by what we think it should be, rather than what it truly is. Perfectionism becomes a shield that we carry around, thinking it will protect us, but in reality, it’s preventing us from truly living and taking flight.
I know this struggle with perfectionism all too well. It has been a part of my life since I was a child, constantly striving for perfection and feeling unworthy if I fell short. It wasn’t until I experienced a major life event, going to prison and losing everything, that I realized the illusion of perfectionism and the importance of true freedom.
Prison forced me to start over and rebuild my life from scratch. It was a painful process, but it taught me valuable lessons about letting go of perfectionism and embracing my true self. I realized that I didn’t need to destroy my life to break free from the prison of perfectionism; I just needed to change my mindset and beliefs.
One key to breaking free from perfectionism is to have a mission greater than yourself. By sharing my story and helping others, I found purpose and meaning in my suffering. I learned to embrace my mistakes and vulnerability, rather than striving for perfection. I also learned to be kinder to myself, allowing myself to enjoy small acts of joy without self-flagellation.
Expanding my mindset and embracing fear as a way to grow has been crucial in breaking free from perfectionism. By choosing expansion over contraction, I have been able to break free from the chains of perfectionism and live a more authentic and fulfilling life.
In conclusion, perfectionism is a belief, not a truth. By dropping this belief and operating from our true selves, we can break free from the prison of perfectionism and live a more meaningful and authentic life. It’s a journey worth taking, and one that can lead to true freedom and fulfillment.