Positive psychology is often touted as the key to improving mental health and overall wellbeing. Many wellbeing programmes around the world are based on the principles of positive psychology, which emphasize intentional efforts to enhance one’s quality of life. However, recent research has shed light on a surprising revelation – experts in positive psychology do not always practice what they preach.
A study conducted by Jolanta Burke and her colleagues interviewed 22 experts and practitioners in positive psychology, all of whom regularly recommended wellbeing activities to others. These activities, such as gratitude journaling and acts of kindness, are typically prescribed in positive psychology programmes to promote positivity and happiness. However, the experts themselves admitted to only engaging in these activities sporadically, usually during times of need.
The study uncovered a new concept known as a “meliotropic wellbeing mindset,” which challenges the traditional approach of following a set schedule of activities to improve wellbeing. Instead, experts found that their own wellbeing stemmed from having a flexible mindset that integrated wellbeing into their daily lives seamlessly. They did not actively chase happiness or positivity but rather embraced life’s ups and downs with acceptance.
Unlike the recommendations they give to clients, experts did not rely on structured activities to boost their wellbeing. Instead, they found fulfillment in everyday actions that aligned with their values and identity, such as reading, volunteering, or practicing yoga. These activities were not performed out of obligation but rather out of a genuine desire for self-care and balance.
Moreover, experts were attuned to the impact of their physical and social environments on their wellbeing. They prioritized self-care practices like adequate sleep, healthy eating, and regular exercise, and were not afraid to make changes to protect their mental health, such as reducing exposure to toxic relationships or stressful work environments.
The study’s findings suggest that the effectiveness of traditional positive psychology programmes may be limited for individuals who have already integrated wellbeing practices into their daily lives. It calls for a shift in focus for researchers and experts in the field to explore the long-term impact of these practices rather than promoting quick fixes or the pursuit of happiness.
Ultimately, the key takeaway from this research is that improving wellbeing does not necessarily require constant self-improvement or adherence to prescribed activities. Instead, cultivating a mindset that aligns with one’s values and priorities can lead to a more meaningful and fulfilling life. By gently moving towards what truly matters, individuals can find sustainable happiness and wellbeing without the need for drastic changes or structured programmes.

